脱口而出 Blurting Out

什么是脱口而出？好像是下意识说出来的话，实际上是“心”在脱口而出。​​

​What is blurting out? It seems like it happens when you speak without thinking, but in fact it’s a manifestation of your state of mind.

有些时候不朝坏的那方面去想，不去做什么，这一点我们可能控制得住。但是要不说那句伤人的话，就很难做到。特别是人处在贪嗔痴很严重的状态下的时候，很多伤人伤己的话，往往会脱口而出。 所谓言为心声，因为话就是自己的心，比如人起了恶念，对别人说话就容易恶语相向；如果某人想讨好别人，想达到一些目的，就爱说一些讨好的话，这是因为内心有了谄曲，自然就会从语言流露出来。 怎样避免心口分离？怎么做到言行一致？ 好好地修慈心、悲心、喜心、舍心。这些心念修好以后，我们说出来的话，肯定是出于好心，肯定是对方能接受的好话。


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​Sometimes we can refrain ourselves from thinking negatively or from taking an impulsive action. However, it is difficult to refrain from blurting out words that hurt others’ feelings. Especially, when we are overwhelmed by craving, hatred, or ignorance, we are likely to say something hurtful to others and ourselves without thinking. It is so-called ‘words are the voice of our mind’ because our words are a direct projection of our thoughts. For instance, if one thinks negatively about others, he is likely to say mean words to others; if one wants to please others in order to achieve some hidden goals, he or she is likely to brown-nose others. Once there is an intention to pander when you speak it will naturally manifest in words.
How to avoid discrepancies between our speech and mind? How to achieve consistency between words and deeds? Carefully cultivate the four infinite minds: loving-kindness, compassion, joy, and equanimity. With this mentality, our words will always come from a good intention, and will always be agreeable and beneficial to others.