会听比会说重要更多 Listening well is more important than speaking well

在平常与人沟通中，我们能否准确全面地了解对方谈话的意思以及言谈之中透露出来的心绪，从而使双方有很好的交流和互动，这非常重要，但往往不容易做到。

During our daily communication with people, can we precisely and comprehensively understand the other person’s words, as well as the thoughts and feelings behind their words, so that we can have good communication and interaction? It is crucial, but often difficult.
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由于每个人的生活环境、人生经历、思维方式和关注对象不同，再加上我们内心情绪波动的干扰，我们在听闻对方说话时很容易出现偏差。

归根结底都是执着于自己的认识、经验等，也就是对“我”和“我所”的执着。

​由于这种执着，我们难以放下自己固执的成见，用心去倾听对方。于是容易失去改善自己习性的好机会，重复犯同样的错误，吃同样的苦头。同时也会发现，当我们越来越固执己见的时候，“说”自己的人，包括朋友，越来越稀少了。

​抱着尊重对方、虚心学习的心去倾听，我们就会接收到对方所要传达的正面能量，进而理解对方，与其感同身受，从而更好地认识和修正自己。那时，我们的知见在不断地趋向纯正，心量在不断扩大，烦恼会越来越少。

Due to differences in each person's living environment, life experience, way of thinking, and focus, combined with interference from our inner emotional fluctuations, we are prone to biases when listening to others.

​Ultimately, this is due to attachment to our own understanding, experiences, and so on, that is, an attachment to the "self" and anything related to the "self."

​Because of this attachment, we struggle to let go of our stubborn prejudices and genuinely listen to the other person. As a result, we easily miss opportunities to improve ourselves, repeat the same mistakes, and suffer the same consequences. At the same time, as we become increasingly stubborn, we find that fewer people, including friends, are willing to point out our faults.

​When we listen with respect and a humble, open mind, we receive the positive energy that the other person wants to convey. This allows us to understand and empathize with them, leading to a better understanding and improvement of ourselves. In this state, our perspective gradually becomes more accurate, our minds expand, and our worries and troubles lessen.