Category: Talk Properly - Bodhi Friends

你嘴上所说的人生，就是你的人生 You live the life you talk about

5/4/2023

每天都能说出积极话语的人，他们的每一天都过得非常顺利，即使遇到了困难，也能够度过难关。如果你看不清自己，那么，就试着看一下周边的人与事，你一定会发现人们都过着他们嘴上所说的人生！

Those who speak positively every day have a very smooth life. Even when they encounter difficulties, they are able to get through them. If you can't see yourself clearly, then try looking around you. You will see that the people around you are living the life they talk about.

为什么话不能说绝? Why Should We Avoid Speaking In an Absolute Manner?

1/10/2020

佛门很讲究惜言。何谓惜言？就是说话要留有余地，因为话说绝了就没有退路了。

Buddhism emphasizes on treasuring our words. It means to avoid speaking absolutely, otherwise, there would be no room for flexibility.

斧在口中 Words Like Swords

1/10/2020

脏话称为“恶口”。有一篇《最好勿学吹口哨》的文章，大意是：1786年，法国国王路易十六的王后到巴黎剧院看演出，观众里有个年轻人向王后吹了两声口哨。

Swearing refers to Harsh Speech in Buddhism.
There is an article called’ Better not to whistle’. According to the book, back in 1786, when the queen of King Louis XVI of France was watching a play at the Palais Garnier, a young man in the audience whistled at her twice.

脱口而出 Blurting Out

1/10/2020

什么是脱口而出？好像是下意识说出来的话，实际上是“心”在脱口而出。

What is blurting out? It seems like it happens when you speak without thinking, but in fact it’s a manifestation of your state of mind.

心直可以, 口不能快 It's Ok To Say What You Think, But Not Ok To Speak Without Thinking

30/9/2020

很多人说话时，特别心直口快，还老爱强调，“我这个人就是直肠子，有什么说什么，绝不遮遮掩掩”。

Many people like to speak without thinking, and they say “I say what I think. I don’t hide.”

“看破，不说破" "See-Through It, But Don’t Point It Out Directly"

30/9/2020

所谓“笑人易，自省难”。人不容易看到自己的缺点，往往看到的都是别人的问题。

As the saying goes, “it is easier to laugh at others than to reflect on one’s own flaws.”It is more likely for people to see others’ faults that to realize their own problems.

口最容易犯错 Be Careful About Your Word

30/9/2020

有的人，爱给别人取外号，特别严重的是给身体有残疾的人取外号，并以此为乐。

Some people like to give other people nicknames, or even making fun of people with disabilities.

说服别人? No. Never Ever Try to Persuade Others

30/9/2020

如果跟一个戾气很重的人沟通，我们是忍着不说，还是顺着他或者跟他作对？

What is considered the proper way to communicate with a hostile person? Should we keep silence in general, agree with him regardless of what he says, or simply fight him when he is being unreasonable?

刀刀见血 Every Cut Leaves A Bleeding Wound

30/9/2020

刀，会伤害人，会受伤，会出血。
说话，也会伤害到人。

A blade can cut people and cause bleeding wounds, so can our speech.

听就可以了 Just Listen

30/9/2020

许久未见的两个人见面了，一个想要告诉另外一个自己最近都做了什么，心情怎么样。另一位觉得需要去开导。

Two people meet again after a long while. One wanted to tell the other what he had done recently and how he felt, while his friend felt the need to advise and persuade him.