一只翅膀的鸟是飞不起来的 A Bird With One Wing Cannot Fly

常常有人问禅师，现在社会上戾气比较重，人与人相处时往往出言不逊，遇到这种情况如何去化解？

​People often ask the Chan Master that hostility in society is severe now; we always speak badly of each other. How to deal with this?

生活中，人与人说话时争强好胜之心总是很难避免。因为无始以来的习惯，总是你一句我一句，针尖对麦芒，必须是我的声音比你大，我得说最后一句话，事情才能罢休......人都是有情绪的，当有人对自己恶言相对的时候，如果没有精修佛法的话，可能不会在很短的时间内就能把心态调整好。那怎么办？

佛家说修身最重要的是要随时修自己的意念，念头。

​其实，每个人都很尊贵，每个人内心都充满了光明。但为什么常常控制不住自己，争执不断呢？因为被无明——烦恼所缠。之所以学佛，就是为了把这个烦恼拿掉，就像把尘埃抹掉，内心如镜的光明就出来了。
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In daily life, we inevitably speak with competitiveness. Because of our habits from the beginning of time, we are used to arguing and riposting with each other. We feel a primal need to be the loudest, to be the one who gets the last word in, before things can stop. People are extremely emotional. Without the intensive cultivation of Buddhism, one cannot pacify oneself in a short time. What to do then?

Buddhism says that the most essential self-cultivation, at any time, is to cultivate one’s thoughts and mind.

​The truth is – everyone is honorable, and every heart is full of light. How come we cannot keep ourselves from constant conflict? The reason is ignorance, and an intractable attachment to affliction. Learning Buddhism will help us detach from these afflictions, like wiping away the metaphorical dust from the heart, and the light from the heart will shine forth with brilliance.